Relationships – The Annoying Aspect

A very huge portion of the  prosperity puzzle is relationships.

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes from the check out girl at the local supermarket to your spouse or child. Most people want to know how to have better relationships and a few are so annoyed by interacting with others that the terms ‘hermit’ or ‘recluse’ can be applied to them. Not all recluses are unsocial, it may actually be necessary to remove oneself from the general population for awhile at least to complete certain types of work or projects.

Now, I know most people can think of at least one person who is very annoying to them and wants to know how to get them to change so that you can be happy. Am I right or am I right?

What would you say if I said that it isn’t anyone else’s responsibility to make you happy? Would you object or would you say, “Hmm, Interesting, tell me more.”?

If you belong in the second category of people I would say that it is up to you to be happy. It is futile to attempt to control others’ behavior for your own happiness needs; however, there is a spiritual principle that once understood will make relationships come alive on a very deep level.

This principle is that:  God or the Universe or Great Spirit (You choose your name for Source) gives you exactly what you ask for.  

I know, I know, I hear all of you now, “What do you mean God gives me exactly what I ask for, I didn’t ask for this.” (Whatever this is)

Consciously no, you may not have asked for whatever is going on your lives –especially your relationships- but subconsciously you have. Your spirit is dedicated for you’re your growth and a prime way your spirit (which is part of THE SPIRIT) helps you is by showing you what you need to heal in your own heart deep, deep down. Issues that have been pushed down, crammed down shoved into the dark are still there, and need to be faced. People or situations in life have been brought into your notice to reflect your deep hidden dark night of the soul. Issues such as low self worth are reflected, beliefs of life being cruel and difficult, as well as a belief that you need to be punished for some guilt are common reflections. This is not all of the issues. There are literally multitudes of beliefs just like there are multitudes of people.

A common paraphrase of an old adage is that if someone annoys you for whatever reason, then you have the same thing or do the same thing yourself in some form.

 It is the fact that this behavior annoys you is the key here. If a behavior can be noticed but not spark any anger or resentment or frustrtation, then you don’t have the issue that that particular person is reflecting to the world.  For instance, few can notice, and not fume,  all day long if someone comes in late for work. If  every single rule was always followed, and we were  never ever late for anything – ever – not even by a little, then it probably wouldn’t even bother us. It may be unconventional – but it still wouldn’t cause us to mutter under our breaths every time a coworker slid into the desk next to ours a minute after the bell,  while munching on a bagel from Dunkin Donuts. The other possibility is that if we all followed all of the rules at work, then the issue of lateness  might not even happen unless it was mirroring some other belief such as rebellion.

 It’s often the ones that are guilty of breaking some rule at work such as maybe doing personal internet searching on company time who are annoyed and  think, “Who does she think she is. I get up extra early to be here, and I bust my butt just to avoid the traffic, and she slides in like she runs the place.” She’s probably thinking, “Wow, I made it and I’m only a minute late, that’s great!”

If, on the other hand ten minutes later, someone else flies in by the seat of her pants, that same one who was only a minute late would probably utter under her breath something  similar to what the first coworker thought about her (as if 11 minutes tardy is absolutely aghast – where one minute tardy is not tardy at all.)

There’s usually one particular person who is on the receiving end of our concentrated ire. This person is the one that you say to yourself is to no one else “I don’t care for so and so because she is such a ________).” If that’s the case, then stop and reflect and see if there’s not something deep down that we’ve been hiding, because we don’t like that about ourselves. Sometimes, it is not possible to think of anything right off hand because it can be so buried.

The good news is that once recognized, it can be cleared and a new belief can be planted so that better things can be reflected back to us. Transformative Ch’i is great at clearing up emotional blockages. In fact, it is one of Tranformative’s Ch’i’s core principles that what we see in life is a result of the emotions within.

We also realize that the annoying people in our lives are just on a mission to help our growth whether they realize it or not. Guess what, you’ve probably been helping theirs too.

Tonya M. Tronco is the founder of Adamaenterprises and President of  a powerful healing system called Transformative Ch’i,  with protocols that facilitate the removal of spiritual, emotional, and physical  blockages to allow the fulfillment of a joyous, prosperous and healthy life. Email her at tonya@adamaenterprises.com  or tonya@transchi.com

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